This is my granny who pretty much raised me and also my closest friend. She had 9 biological children of her own that she raised, numerous step children, she was married 4 different times and out lived each and every last one of them. My granny was a G. She also raised foster children and was dorm mom at TVCC in Athens. Shawn Kemp was one of her "kids" when he was there. We always called her Muh. Others called her Sis Gleen or Ms Roxie. My granny was a faithful servant of the Lord and was very loving and giving, she didnt care about net worth or none of that, all she wanted you to know was that God loves you. She loved unconditionally, to be perfectly honest I felt more love from her than the lady who birthed me and that lady lived in MY house off and on for yrs.
Every since I can remember my granny has always told it, just like it is, and thats how I am now. No use in sugarcoating the truth. Tell the truth and shame the devil. She was somewhat of a minister never ordained or anything but she knew the word of God and wanted to make sure you knew as well. One of my fondest memories was of us bout 12 deep in a lil burnt orange Pinto station wagon, going to sunday school. My granny was very affectionate and you could feel her love thru letters, cards , devotionals, from afar or right at home on the phone. I was not the best child or teenager growing up but she never stopped loving me, even when I didnt much love myself. Once I became a mother she taught me how to not only love myself but how to love my children to where they knew love and how to express it. How to make sure my children always knew I loved them, no matter what we might be going through. How to build friendships and relationships with others and most importantly how to mature my relationship with God. We all knew not to call her at 9pm on Thursdays cuz her Law and order was on and you might just get cussed out. It used to be Perry Mason and Matlock but once Law and Order began , it was a wrap.
We used to go to church almost everyday out the week and I hated it. And we lived directly behind the church. But she never once faltered on getting God's message across. Back in March I noticed I had not received a call or any mail from my granny for a while, so I had to investigate. She had fallen and hurt herself and was rehabbing to get her strength back up. My granny had just stopped working regularly at 82 yrs old. She didnt know the meaning of the word quit. One of my aunts was supposed to stay with her and help her out and make sure she was ok. That is not what happened. My granny ended up with pneumonia and went into the hospital for a while. Then my "mother" the lifelong LVN steps in demanding to see charts and trying to pretty tell the hospital staff what they should be doing. Pretty much embarrassing my granny in front of her friends and church family she has known for the last 30 yrs. So my granny goes home and again my aunt is supposed to take care of her, she is weak cant move around on her own and cant wipe her own butt.
Now medicaid paid my aunt to be my granny's nurse aid or wtf ever its called. You know what she did tho , she took my granny's car and brought her ass to Dallas and left my granny all alone. She said she wasnt wiping my granny's ass and she wasnt going to bathe her neither. My granny had a stroke while she was left all alone by herself and by the time anybody went to check on her, her speech and body was slumped on the right side. So back into the hospital she went. Again that lady who calls herself my mother takes her rolly polly ass down there and starts to try and run shyt, making all types of accusations against the hospital staff even called in a complaint to the state board. These ppl have been knowing my granny for 30 yrs she was closer to then than her own children. They genuinely loved her as did I. My granny ran away. I know it sounds like WTF, how does an 82 yr old woman run away. She called my youngest aunt and she went and got her and hid her here in Dallas.
One of the things my granny has always been adamant about was that I needed to cut my moma loose, get her out my house, because she didn't love me like I loved her and as sad as it is , thats been the story of my life. Easter sunday I was in the hospital with my 1 kidney about to fail and I came to a decision. All that stress needed to be removed out of my life for I have children who loved me and I needed to be there for. Now me and my baby aunt have always been close, closer than me and that "lady". She kept me updated on my granny and her rehabilitation but we didnt tell the rest of the family, because Muh didnt want anybody to know. It was funny to watch everybody act concerned and try and find her, then the drama began. That "lady" tracked my granny down using her professional connections which is a direct violation of her hipaa rights , but I would have a hard time proving it, except the email which she finally came out and admitted what she did.
Finally my granny was like it's ok, she's feeling better her spirit was fine , let everybody know where she was. They still tried to run this nursing staff, but Dallas is different than East Tx. Then all of a sudden her social security check was not deposited in her acct as scheduled, when my aunt called they said the check had been mailed, we were like WTF, she has been gettin DD for over 20 yrs. She sat my other aunt (who was supposed to be caring for her) and that "lady" down and asked where her check was. My aunt never spoke, but that "lady" kept saying no one had her check and she would have to prove it was cashed. My granny told both of them somebody was going to jail for taking her check and she meant it , this was June 7th. She called me and asked for my advice, and I advised they need to go to jail and call the police. My baby aunt figured since the theft happened in Athens to call Athens police , they weren't trying to assist, but Im like no, she's living in Dallas now as has been for a few weeks now, call the non emergency number. And dayummit DPD came to the hospital where she was and filed out her report on June 10th 2010. She told the officers who took her report she no longer wanted to be here knowing her daughters were stealing from her and that my aunt had to be stopped. At the stroke of midnight she died in her sleep and my life as I know it has never been the same. We did finally get to the bottom of her stolen social security check but that will be in another post on another day.
Every since I can remember my granny has always told it, just like it is, and thats how I am now. No use in sugarcoating the truth. Tell the truth and shame the devil. She was somewhat of a minister never ordained or anything but she knew the word of God and wanted to make sure you knew as well. One of my fondest memories was of us bout 12 deep in a lil burnt orange Pinto station wagon, going to sunday school. My granny was very affectionate and you could feel her love thru letters, cards , devotionals, from afar or right at home on the phone. I was not the best child or teenager growing up but she never stopped loving me, even when I didnt much love myself. Once I became a mother she taught me how to not only love myself but how to love my children to where they knew love and how to express it. How to make sure my children always knew I loved them, no matter what we might be going through. How to build friendships and relationships with others and most importantly how to mature my relationship with God. We all knew not to call her at 9pm on Thursdays cuz her Law and order was on and you might just get cussed out. It used to be Perry Mason and Matlock but once Law and Order began , it was a wrap.
We used to go to church almost everyday out the week and I hated it. And we lived directly behind the church. But she never once faltered on getting God's message across. Back in March I noticed I had not received a call or any mail from my granny for a while, so I had to investigate. She had fallen and hurt herself and was rehabbing to get her strength back up. My granny had just stopped working regularly at 82 yrs old. She didnt know the meaning of the word quit. One of my aunts was supposed to stay with her and help her out and make sure she was ok. That is not what happened. My granny ended up with pneumonia and went into the hospital for a while. Then my "mother" the lifelong LVN steps in demanding to see charts and trying to pretty tell the hospital staff what they should be doing. Pretty much embarrassing my granny in front of her friends and church family she has known for the last 30 yrs. So my granny goes home and again my aunt is supposed to take care of her, she is weak cant move around on her own and cant wipe her own butt.
Now medicaid paid my aunt to be my granny's nurse aid or wtf ever its called. You know what she did tho , she took my granny's car and brought her ass to Dallas and left my granny all alone. She said she wasnt wiping my granny's ass and she wasnt going to bathe her neither. My granny had a stroke while she was left all alone by herself and by the time anybody went to check on her, her speech and body was slumped on the right side. So back into the hospital she went. Again that lady who calls herself my mother takes her rolly polly ass down there and starts to try and run shyt, making all types of accusations against the hospital staff even called in a complaint to the state board. These ppl have been knowing my granny for 30 yrs she was closer to then than her own children. They genuinely loved her as did I. My granny ran away. I know it sounds like WTF, how does an 82 yr old woman run away. She called my youngest aunt and she went and got her and hid her here in Dallas.
One of the things my granny has always been adamant about was that I needed to cut my moma loose, get her out my house, because she didn't love me like I loved her and as sad as it is , thats been the story of my life. Easter sunday I was in the hospital with my 1 kidney about to fail and I came to a decision. All that stress needed to be removed out of my life for I have children who loved me and I needed to be there for. Now me and my baby aunt have always been close, closer than me and that "lady". She kept me updated on my granny and her rehabilitation but we didnt tell the rest of the family, because Muh didnt want anybody to know. It was funny to watch everybody act concerned and try and find her, then the drama began. That "lady" tracked my granny down using her professional connections which is a direct violation of her hipaa rights , but I would have a hard time proving it, except the email which she finally came out and admitted what she did.
Finally my granny was like it's ok, she's feeling better her spirit was fine , let everybody know where she was. They still tried to run this nursing staff, but Dallas is different than East Tx. Then all of a sudden her social security check was not deposited in her acct as scheduled, when my aunt called they said the check had been mailed, we were like WTF, she has been gettin DD for over 20 yrs. She sat my other aunt (who was supposed to be caring for her) and that "lady" down and asked where her check was. My aunt never spoke, but that "lady" kept saying no one had her check and she would have to prove it was cashed. My granny told both of them somebody was going to jail for taking her check and she meant it , this was June 7th. She called me and asked for my advice, and I advised they need to go to jail and call the police. My baby aunt figured since the theft happened in Athens to call Athens police , they weren't trying to assist, but Im like no, she's living in Dallas now as has been for a few weeks now, call the non emergency number. And dayummit DPD came to the hospital where she was and filed out her report on June 10th 2010. She told the officers who took her report she no longer wanted to be here knowing her daughters were stealing from her and that my aunt had to be stopped. At the stroke of midnight she died in her sleep and my life as I know it has never been the same. We did finally get to the bottom of her stolen social security check but that will be in another post on another day.
Bravo On Ya 1st Post...This Was A Very Good Story... i know how it feels to lose someone close to you... your grandmother reminds me alot of mine... Strong Willed, Kind hearted & REAL..
ReplyDeletewow...so powerful!! You do a very good job of conveying a powerful story into written words. Im anxiously awaiting part 2 :)
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